The Road Traveled Matters

~Hey Beautiful People! I pray something happened, this week to soothe your soul. On this journey, I want to tell you a story. I’m not going to explain it nor and I going to tell you why I wrote it… Okay, if you really want to know why I wrote it, just leave it in the comments, I’ll tell you in the next post!

Oh, next Saturday, April 20th, there will not be a post. I’ll be enjoying some much needed vacation time. Posting will resume April 27th. Ready to explore? Alright! Indulge and Enjoy!~

Following the coordinates given to him to find his Princess, he approaches the castle door with caution. After the fight he had just encountered with the vicious beastly dragon, he didn’t know what dangers could be awaiting once he walked inside of the rustic, Gothic-looking castle. He paused and took a long deep drag of fresh air to calm his nerves.

He pulls on the door and to his surprise, it opens without him using any strength. Walking the long dark hallway he hears rummaging behind him. Fearlessly, he pulls his sword and assumes a fighting stance but, the noise was gone. Resuming his journey down the dark, gloomy, tunneled passageway leading him to his princess, he contemplates the choices he made leading to this moment.

Pushing open the door, directly at the end of the hall, he sees his princess awaiting his kiss to wake her. He runs to her and kisses her gently on the lips expecting her to awaken.

**BOOM- POW-POW- POW-BBDDAATT**

Turning to his left his eyes confirm the loud abrupt explosion ringing through his ears, bringing him to his reality. You see, he didn’t get to his princess all by himself. In all actuality, he’s a fearful coward. Lacking faith and strength, he chose to cheat, signing a contract with the evilest man you could imagine… Fairy-tales call him Mr. Rumpelstiltskin and the world refers to him as the devil…

Soothed by true love’s first kiss, the prince was struck with pain, as a bullet rips through the flesh of his forearm. Looking down, he notices a gun in front of him. Diving to the ground, bullets continue to zip past him. Picking up his gun and surveying his surroundings confusion overwhelms him. Then it hits him. He remembers a strange phrase the evil man mentioned as he was signing the contract….

“You can’t have love without war.”

The prince was on a battlefield. Realizing he may never feel the kiss of his love again. Unless… He wonders if he won this war, would he be united with his princess. Still not understanding his life is no longer his own…

Don’t forget to tell me in the comments if you want to know what all this means to me and why I choose to write it this week! Also, remember, there will NOT be a journey April 20th. I pray you and your families a very Happy Easter!!

As always, feel free to ask questions and/or leave feedback in the comments section.

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I am BEAUTIFUL. I am PASSIONATE. I will LOVE.

You Matter

~ Hey Family! This week has been really interesting, to say the least… I’ve seen so much sadness, hate, depression, and misery all around me. I want to touch base on that this week.

Let me be clear, this has nothing whatsoever to do with my mental or emotional state. I am in a very healthy, happy space. My goal of this post is to help someone take the first step in becoming the beautiful individual you are supposed to be! Ready to journey? Great! Indulge & Enjoy!~

I really want to take this moment to say if anyone reading this feels alone, or as if their life doesn’t matter, please know that is far from the truth! Sometimes it’s hard to see your value through all the pain and trauma that life throws our way. There are three facts I want to point out to you. Hopefully, after reading them you’ll see things a little differently…

Despite how you feel, you are very valuable to this world!!!

The life you’re living cannot and will not be duplicated by anyone. There is a calling (purpose) on your life that only you can fulfill! Your struggles are molding you into the individual needed to completely fulfill your journey. Okay, so maybe you haven’t quite figured out what you’re purpose is. IT’S OKAY!! Regardless of your age, race, or tax bracket, your purpose will present itself when you’re strong/healthy enough to handle the responsibility that comes with it.

I mean, think about it, if your purpose fell out of the sky right now, with a blueprint on how you had to live your life, what would you do? Would you be willing to give up any and everything standing in the way of you seeing your journey through? Would you give up your family, friends, or even your spouse?

Your purpose may need for your entire life to be turned upside down. Though this may not be a bad thing, you still have to be prepared for it. This season you’re in now is your preparation season.

Your presence is making an imprint in your communities.

Often times, we don’t even realize the many different communities we belong to. Some days we’re happy, some days we’re sad, other days we don’t really know how we feel… No matter the emotion we carry throughout the day it’s leaving an imprint with the people we interact with and even the atmosphere once we’ve left.

Have you ever walk into a room and just felt “off”? It’s because you walked into an atmosphere that had been shifted by the person who was there prior. Your presence has that same power. It’s up to you to choose how the atmosphere is shifted. Choose wisely…

Someone is looking up to you!

Between school, work, extracurricular activities, social media, and everything in between, we interact with so many people every day. Sometimes, we don’t even know the impression we’re making on the people around us. I promise you, If you were to disappear today there are so many people, other than family, who would miss you.

I know you don’t realize it but people look up to you. They admire the way you walk through life. They admire your drive and your determination to not give up. They aspire to be a little bit more like you each day. Though they may never tell you, you may be the lifeline that’s keeping them afloat

If when reading this post, you connected on any level, I want you to know how valuable you are. I want you to know how loved you are. I want you to know that you cannot be duplicated. Most importantly I want you to know I’m here for you.

If you ever need someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to email me at beautifulpassionatelove@gmail.com.

As always, feel free to ask questions and/or leave feedback in the comments section.

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I am BEAUTIFUL. I am PASSIONATE. I will LOVE.

Let Go, Move On

~ Hey Hey! I pray this week pushed you to do something unexpected for someone un-expecting! As you know, weekly we journey through what I’ve focused on all week. With that being said, we’re going to switch paths from Breaking Free. If we need to go back there, by all means, we will, however, today we’re going to close the door on trauma Breaking Free dealt with. Ready to journey together! Me too. Indulge & Enjoy!~


Yes, they hurt you…

Yes, they made you cry…

Yes, they stole from you…

Yes, they used you…

Guess what they also did…

MOVED ON with their lives…


You’ve held onto the sadness…

You’ve held onto this pain…

You’ve held onto the memories…

You’ve nearly driven yourself insane…

Guess what you’ve also done …

Become COMPLACENT


Back then, you didn’t have a choice…

Back then, you were too young…

Back then, you didn’t have a voice…

Back then, you couldn’t even run…

Guess what else you couldn’t do…

Determine what is YET TO COME


Now, you are BEAUTIFUL

Now, you are STRONG

Now, you are a FIGHTER

Now it’s time to MOVE ON!!!

This week, I kept hearing a voice say, “Let go and move on.” At first, I was offended… “This is my journey and I will dwell on my pain for as long as I want…” I continuously thought to myself. As the week progressed, I realized the significance of the sweet, soft voice telling me to let go…

All week, I felt tired… I couldn’t focus on my meal plan… I even missed a workout!! My energy was literally draining from me and now I know why.

Over the course of the last two weeks, I have reflected NONSTOP on the negative events of the past. Mentally and physically I was ready to move on, however, emotionally I was obsessing over exploring all the obstacles affecting me from blossoming.  Turns out, at this present moment, I am the main obstacle contributing to my bondage…

It’s time to get out of your sadness and stand tall. You can’t change your past, and you can’t predict your future. Guess what you can do though…

ENJOY THE PRESENT MOMENT!!!

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Quit forcing yourself to miss out because you don’t feel worthy. Smile… Laugh… Make lasting memories… Be happy!!
As always, feel free to ask questions and/or leave feedback in the comments section.

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I am BEAUTIFUL. I am PASSIONATE. I will LOVE.

Beauty in Failure

~What’s up BPL Family!! Goodness, this has been a long week, however, I pray it brought you closer to the REAL you. When I tell you all I was so over adulting this week… I mean, work was crazy, my personal life felt nonexistent, and don’t even get me started on this weather!

For those of you who don’t know, I live in Upstate New York, where the weather this week just couldn’t make up its mind! We went from Monday which felt like -27 degrees to Wednesday which was 36 degrees. WHY!! Anywho, all and all, I am extremely blessed and thankful for the good, the bad, and the ugly of this week. Let’s embark on this weeks journey! Indulge & Enjoy!~

Sometimes, it’s difficult to see what everyone else sees when they look at you. It’s hard to process the difference in what you see, from what they see. The largest challenge may come when you have to convince yourself what you see isn’t true.

I mean, how can you tell your mind that what your eyes see is wrong? What type of mind games do you have to play in order to change what you see? Remember reading “Everyone Lies” from a couple weeks ago? Well, lets journey a little deeper into this mindset.

Off and on throughout my life, I struggled to see the beauty I possess. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had trillions of moments where I felt pretty. I’ve taken plenty of pictures that family and friends marvel over. My Mom would take me places and people would tell her how beautiful I am and, “She looks just like you.

“What’s the point in lying,” I would think to myself while smiling and thanking them for their kind words. As the conversation continued, I would wonder “Why don’t I see what they see?” That was before puberty took over. As a teen, my response to complements changed.

You know those people we consider ‘Negative Nancy(s)? The ones that you complement and they respond with a “Yeah, right…” or “You’re just saying that… You’re the pretty one.” In this day and age, we even refer to them as ‘Attention Seekers‘. Well… I was that person… I didn’t see it as being negative though. I also wasn’t seeking attention.

Makeup has never been my thing. Honestly, I can’t remember actually wearing it, outside of cheerleading in high school. For me, it was more about my hair. In order for me to feel beautiful, my hair had to be done. By done, I mean I really had to be feeling myself!

By the age of 11 or 12, I wasn’t feeling the straight braids to the back or quick “up-dos” my Mom did while rushing out of the door for work. Right around this age, my Mom and I got into a huge blowup that resulted in her refusing to do my hair anymore. That’s when I learned, being “beautiful” was hard work.

Surprisingly (to me and only me), I didn’t have too many moments of beauty when I was doing my own hair either. It was pretty difficult until I taught myself how to braid and, secure weave ponytails. I still had to depend on my Mom for perms and hot combs though. When I tell you I thought my mom was going to burn my scalp!!! (Lucky for me, my mom wasn’t as petty as I was.)

When I say it took me decades to see my beauty I mean it. It was two decades to be exact! After high school, I went straight to college (full-time), while also working full-time. Most days, I didn’t have enough energy to pick out an outfit yet alone do my hair. I felt hideous…

A friend of mine, Kita, convinced me to go natural, meaning no chemically treated hair, and for some reason, I thought I would instantly feel beautiful. WRONG!! I literally had to learn my hair all over again! During this time though, I started to see my beauty while learning my scalp. (Scalp is such an ugly word.)

For those of you who aren’t familiar with natural hair, there are quite a few twist-outs, wet & go(s) and protective styles. Now, believe me when I tell you they are way harder then they sound. To be honest, I’ve yet to succeed at a natural style, and April of this year will be 5 years natural!

Here we go, someone is reading this thinking, “If the style didn’t come out right, why don’t you just take it out and, start over?” To you I say. welcome to the family and we’re glad to have you. keep reading and you’ll find your answer.

Though twist-outs sound easy they are pretty time-consuming. When setting a twist-out the hair is usually damp and there is some type of styling cream or gel that is applied throughout each section. The hair then has to dry, be untwisted and then styled.

So usually, I twist my hair, allow the twists to sit overnight and then style it in the morning. Therefore, I don’t know that I’ve failed until I’m getting ready to go in the morning, By then, I have no choice but to turn this failure into a masterpiece for at least that day!

This week and last week, I was in deep thought. After putting myself in the driver seat of life last week, I felt like little Alyshia-Mae was nagging me almost. Throughout all of my thinking, there was one question that remained on my heart. “Do you see it yet?” At first, I was annoyed… Then confused… Finally frustrated.

While in my frustration, I happen to be getting ready for work. As I looked in the mirror, the question weighed heavy on my heart. I was forced to stare at the woman looking back at me. My goodness was she beautiful! it was in that emotional moment the question, “Do you see it yet,” was replaced with a simple statement…

So, you finally see our beauty?!

If no one has told you today, you are beautiful! No one is more beautiful than you! If you can’t see it, then you have some work to do… I urge you to start now!

Feel free to ask questions and/or leave feedback in the comments section. 

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I am BEAUTIFUL. I am PASSIONATE. I will LOVE.