Growing Pains

-Hey B.P.L. Family! I am so proud to say I’m done with class!! I’ve passed my state exam and now I’m in Birthday mode!!! By the way, there will not be a Journey next week, as I’ll be celebrating my birthday! Our next journey will be on June 1st. Now, let’s dive into this week’s journey. Ready to explore? Cool beans! Indulge and Enjoy!-

This week, a memory came up in Facebook Memories, and I’d like to share it with you. Take a look…

Man, I can’t believe how selfish I was! How did I genuinely believe no one from my past should find happiness before me? Why did I think this mindset was okay? Why did I even care whether they were happy or not?

I mean, yeah, I was cool with all of my exes. Even when the relationship ended on bad terms I would always be sure to forgive them or ask them to forgive me, and we would continue our friendship. But, why was I so invested in them not finding their significant others before me?

Truth? Well, I never let them go… Any of them. When our relationships ended, I would hold on to the smallest piece of it as a keepsake. A little bit of hope that we would find our way back to each other.

Perfect example… My ex-fiancé and I were off and on for 10 years before we even got engaged. We literally refused to let each other go. We would enter into new relationships destroy them and then run back to each other. It was complete and utter dysfunction, yet, somehow we thought marriage would make it better…

What I hate the most about this time in my life, is how I justified my actions. Whenever one of my exes and I got back together, I would say “ This has to be God telling me he’s the one.” Anytime I did something I knew I shouldn’t have, I would convince myself “God understands,” and continue down my road to destruction… Looking back at it now, it’s a little embarrassing…

The greatest change I’ve made over the last year is losing the “me first” attitude. Learning how to cheer for everyone, whether I’m in the race or not! I mean, I’ve always been the type to want everyone to succeed, I just wanted to get there first.

*** Hahaha***

I genuinely thank God for the relationships he placed the men of my past in, leading them to marriage because it forced me to let go… ALL THE WAY! And, during that letting go process, I was forced to be honest with myself. I cried, a lot… I screamed, too much…And, I hated myself, too often… After a while, however, God slowly started to reveal who I am destined to be.

Now, I smile, uncontrollably… I’m genuinely happy, constantly… And, daily I’m on track to be a better me, AUTHENTICALLY!!

This journey as a whole isn’t an easy one. I’m so thankful to have all of you to share it with! Please remember, no matter where you are in life to: Enjoy your growth process, growing pains and all! Have a Happy Memorials Day (May 27th- My Birthday!) See y’all June 1st!!

As always, feel free to ask questions and/or leave feedback in the comments section.

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Incomplete Days

~Hey Hey!! I pray you’re all making peace with the unchangeable elements in your lives. This week has flown by! I was supposed to inform you all, in last weeks adventure, there wasn’t going to be a journey this week… I completely forgot!

I’m still in licensing class for my job, we’re actually prepping for our state exam next week (pray for my success), therefore, my focus has been mainly on this class. I’m not going to go too deep this week (I have a lot of studying to do). I hope you’re still able to enjoy our journey together!! Ready? Indulge & Enjoy!!~

So here I am, sitting in this class. I’m stressed about the material because I don’t feel I’m retaining it the way I should be… However, I continue to try each day. My instructor is pretty dope though! She has a way of teaching the material while making it less boring. One of the main things I love about her is, story time is all the time. She shares so many intimate family stories and somehow finds a way to tie them to insurance.

While telling a story this week, she shared something her Mother said often… No sooner than she said it, my mind started to explore days I’ve felt incomplete…

Have you ever had one of those days? A day where everything seemed to go “right,” however, you still weren’t satisfied? I mean you did everything you set out to do, but, the day still doesn’t seem complete? As the sun goes down, you wonder what would have made the day better, however, nothing really stands out? Well, think about this…

3 Things You Need Daily to be Happy:

– Something to do…

-Somewhere to go…

-Someone to love…

(Quote from My Instructor’s Mom)

Now, reflect back to one of the days we were just talking about. The ones that felt incomplete. Was one of these things missing? Was there nothing to do that day? Nowhere to go? Or, maybe you just couldn’t find someone to love on for the day?

We, the human race, forget the importance of giving love as well as being loved. I feel just as good giving love as I do getting it. It has nothing to do with physical intimacy. Love can be shown in so many different ways…

Spending time with people you care about. Volunteering your time doing something in your community (literally covers all three). Intentionally, doing something nice for an un-expecting recipient.

For me, hearing this was exactly what I needed. I’ve had so many incomplete days, and, when I think about them, one of the three was always missing. It wasn’t always the same element missing either. The conclusion I was able to come to? By implementing this small guide to my day, I’ll never have an incomplete day again!

As always, feel free to ask questions and/or leave feedback in the comments section.

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~Happy May Family!! How’s your week treating you? I pray you’ve been working, daily, to become a better you! As you all know, I strive for improvement daily and this week has been no different! I’m in a tough state licensing class (courtesy of my job), however, this hasn’t stopped me from reflecting on my flaws. Ready to explore? Me too! Indulge & Enjoy!~

This week, while learning a million and one foreign topics, I struggled to stay committed to my health and fitness journey… I went from eating extremely healthy to eating cheeseburgers and fries for lunch. I also skipped meals (6 small meals daily), struggled to drink a gallon of water a day and stopped working out.

As the week progressed, whenever I’d pause from studying, I would hear one line continue to play over and over again…

“…But you promised…”

I knew right away what the phrase was referring too. I also knew I was too stressed to eat healthy at the moment. But then, I thought about how far I’ve come, and knew some big girl decisions had to be made…

Here’s my recommitment to myself…

Dear Beautiful Inspiration,

Thank you for holding me accountable. Thank you for maturing and realizing we can’t continue to live life making excuses. You are my constant reminder, proving, I deserve better than what I give myself.

You’ve, patiently, allowed me to make mistakes without allowing me to step too far out of character. Whether it be allowing someone responsible for hurting me continue to be a part of my life or, making myself overly available to someone I’ve just met, you always keep my best interest at heart.

Yet, I’ve let you down so many times…

I’ve already put you as a priority, however, most times I fail to trust your judgment. It’s crazy because you’re the one that stops and thinks before speaking… You pray before reacting to frustrating circumstances… And, you show compassion before assuming the worst.

Today, I promise to consult you before making choices. Today, I promise to support your decisions. Today, I give you authority to intrude in areas of my life I don’t allow you access to. Today, I recommit myself to you!

You will teach me how to love not only me but those around me, also. You will continue to teach me my genuine beauty. You will allow me to be my authentic self, with no apologies. And for all you do, for me, I have no choice but to continue to be in love with you!

Take the wheel beautiful!

So often we underestimate the support we can give ourselves. We’re always looking for someone to motivate us, to tell us how great we are… But what about the voice inside, already shouting, “YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING YOU PUT YOUR MIND TO!”Listen to that voice, trust that voice, honor that voice, and see where it leads you.

As always, feel free to ask questions and/or leave feedback in the comments section.

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The Road Traveled Matters (Break Down)

~Oh Hey Family!! I pray the last two weeks have been felt with love and joy! I had a beautiful vacation, spending some much needed time with my family in Kentucky!

Before we get started, I need to say if you haven’t read The Road Traveled Matters, I highly recommend doing so to ensure you understand this week’s journey. (It’s 3-5 minutes… DON’T BE LAZY!) This week, as promised, we are going to revisit The Road Traveled Matters, and journey through the meaning behind it. Ready to explore? Perfect! Indulge and Enjoy!!~

I’ve realized, in previous journeys, when I share thought-provoking information with you guys, I don’t give you a chance to form your own opinion. I want to give you all time to explore and digest what we’ve explored and then the following week, if needed, I’ll break down the journey. One last time, if you haven’t read The Road Traveled Matters, please go back and do so at this time…

Alright, so the title itself really is the underlying message I desire to put out. I’ve run into so many people, all on different walks in life, who seem comfortable (too comfortable) “allowing the universe” to dictate their future. Using statements such as, “My story was written long before I got here,” or something similar, to defend why they don’t see a need to live out their destiny. I, personally, do not wholeheartedly agree.

Yes, I am a Christian and I do believe God is the Author of my narrative. However, I also believe God gave us free will to allow us to choose the roads traveled throughout our story. In The Road Traveled Matters, the Prince chooses a road of no work and all pleasure. He didn’t have to have the Princess locked away in a castle, but that’s the one he chooses as his wife.

Instead of doing the work and training to ensure he would be successful in rescuing the princess HE CHOSE, he signed the contract, a black magic contract, giving him access to the strength and skills he needed to slay the dragon. Did it work? YES! He slew the dragon and kissed his princess…

The moment his lips touched hers, the contract had been fulfilled. But everyone knows there’re terms and conditions with ALL contracts. Now he finds himself in the middle of a war, back to where he started, wondering how he can get to his princess…

The road the prince is traveling was not “the universe” nor was it “God’s plan.” God’s plan was him finding a princess, putting in the work, and staying with her. The road he chose made his narrative more difficult. A prince doesn’t belong in war. Unfortunately, because of HIS CHOICES, he has altered his narrative…

What appears to be the easy way out isn’t always easy. We don’t know what’s lurking in the twists and turns of life. However, we know right from wrong. We know nothing in this life is just given to us at no cost whatsoever. Therefore, if we choose to take the easy way out, we have to also be ready to deal with the consequences that may follow.

We have to take ownership of the choices we make in life. We can’t continue to blame the universe and, in some instances even blame God, for the actions we chose to make. I’m not going to give a bunch of examples or go on a tangent of what’s right and wrong because I don’t feel it’s needed. I’m sure you understand what I’m saying.

As always, feel free to ask questions and/or leave feedback in the comments section.

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The Road Traveled Matters

~Hey Beautiful People! I pray something happened, this week to soothe your soul. On this journey, I want to tell you a story. I’m not going to explain it nor am I going to tell you why I wrote it… Okay, if you really want to know why I wrote it, just leave it in the comments, I’ll tell you in the next post!

Oh, next Saturday, April 20th, there will not be a post. I’ll be enjoying some much needed vacation time. Posting will resume April 27th. Ready to explore? Alright! Indulge and Enjoy!~

Following the coordinates given to him to find his Princess, he approaches the castle door with caution. After the fight he had just encountered with the vicious beastly dragon, he didn’t know what dangers could be awaiting once he walked inside of the rustic, Gothic-looking castle. He paused and took a long deep drag of fresh air to calm his nerves.

He pulls on the door and to his surprise, it opens without him using any strength. Walking the long dark hallway he hears rummaging behind him. Fearlessly, he pulls his sword and assumes a fighting stance but, the noise was gone. Resuming his journey down the dark, gloomy, tunneled passageway leading him to his princess, he contemplates the choices he made leading to this moment.

Pushing open the door, directly at the end of the hall, he sees his princess awaiting his kiss to wake her. He runs to her and kisses her gently on the lips expecting her to awaken.


Turning to his left his eyes confirm the loud abrupt explosion ringing through his ears, bringing him to his reality. You see, he didn’t get to his princess all by himself. In all actuality, he’s a fearful coward. Lacking faith and strength, he chose to cheat, signing a contract with the evilest man you could imagine… Fairy-tales call him Mr. Rumpelstiltskin and the world refers to him as the devil…

Soothed by true love’s first kiss, the prince was struck with pain, as a bullet rips through the flesh of his forearm. Looking down, he notices a gun in front of him. Diving to the ground, bullets continue to zip past him. Picking up his gun and surveying his surroundings confusion overwhelms him. Then it hits him. He remembers a strange phrase the evil man mentioned as he was signing the contract….

“You can’t have love without war.”

The prince was on a battlefield. Realizing he may never feel the kiss of his love again. Unless… He wonders if he won this war, would he be united with his princess. Still not understanding his life is no longer his own…

Don’t forget to tell me in the comments if you want to know what all this means to me and why I choose to write it this week! Also, remember, there will NOT be a journey April 20th. I pray you and your families a very Happy Easter!!

As always, feel free to ask questions and/or leave feedback in the comments section.

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