Regret, Why?

~Hey Beautiful Family! I pray this week has made you think twice before making a destiny altering decision. As for me… Well, I was tested, multiple times, and I’m proud to report I’ve passed the majority of them! This week, I want us to journey through one of the most powerful emotions we possess… Regret. Ready to explore? Me too! Indulge & Enjoy!~

Alright! Let’s talk about the elephant in the room. The big meany that always picks on us, especially when we’re already down on ourselves. You know, the feeling that you shouldn’t have called him/her, even though you missed them and you just wanted to check-in. Or how you shouldn’t have had that second piece of cake, because it wasn’t a part of your meal plan.

Let’s address the feeling by name. Let’s take its power away, that we may no longer be shackled by its bondage! Let’s walk away from the hurt we’ve felt all these years. Stop trying to ease into this break up with the “It’s not you… It’s me,” speech. END IT NOW! Close the door before they drag you back with the trips down memory lane. RUNAWAY FROM REGRET… and stop looking back.

I don’t know about you, however, I’m exhausted with having regret on my mind, constantly. I mean, I regret pressing snooze on my alarm, somewhere between five and 15 times, this morning. I regret speeding past the car on my way to work, the driver had no idea where they were going. I regret being the main bully in an alliance, solely created, to make a now close friend cry, way back in high school. I also, regret running away from home when I was 14…

There… now you know some of the things I regret. From trivial to literally life-changing… Have they altered your opinion of me? Can you not journey with me anymore? Am I a bad person, now? No? WAIT! You mean to tell me the events in my life that I’ve been dwelling on, big and small, don’t matter to you at all? You, respectfully, couldn’t care less? So why am I so regretful?

Truth? All regret really is, is a huge hypothetical mind game! We sit and think about random events and obstacles, from our past we think we would change, not realizing, EVERYTHING we’ve gone through is literally mapping out where we are going. Don’t get it? Check this out… Have you ever seen That’s So Raven? (One of my favorite shows growing up!) If you haven’t definitely check out a clip or two!

A quick synopsis, the main character, Raven, is “psychic.” So, every episode we see her have “visions,” pertaining to her family and friends. Whenever she has a vision, if it’s bad she does everything she can to try to make the vision not true, and if it’s good, I can’t remember many good ones… she tries to make sure it happens. Usually, almost all of the bad stuff ends up happening, I believe the good stuff did also.

What it took Raven, her friends, and her family four seasons to realize is everything always came true because of her actions (prevention or otherwise). That’s what I mean by a huge hypothetical mind game. She saw the future, regret what she saw, tried to change it, and then became the main source of why the event takes place. So now I ask…

Do you really think you would be in a different position in life, as a whole, if events didn’t fall the way they have thus far?

Now, someone is definitely reading this saying… “Yes, if I was born rich or won the lottery, my life would be drastically different.” FALSE!! You would still have problems just on a different scale than the ones you have now. I imagine life would be pretty tough not knowing who is genuinely there for me as a person or just for my money or celebrity status. (Just a random example I thought of.)

My take on all of this… Stop regretting your decisions and start double checking your decision making! Once words are said, you can’t take them back. And, once actions are made, you can’t undo them. So, before you make you’re next decision, big or small, ask yourself… ”How will this impact my destiny?”

I want you to take a pledge with me! We’ve done a similar exercise in an earlier journey. Find a mirror, or something you can clearly see your reflection in. Repeat these words…

“I control my destiny by my actions. If I act before thinking, I lose control. Thinking after acting, is regret attempting to consume my mind and I REFUSE to live a life wondering, ‘What if?’

Today, I choose to take my life back! Today, I choose a wiser thought process. Today, I force regret out of my mind and replace it with certainty! Today, I am free!”

Don’t believe it, repeat it until you do! Need to talk something out? I’m here for you! Email me at beautifulpassionatelove@gmail.com, we will work it together! (Please, remember I am not a licensed therapist.)

As always, feel free to ask questions and/or leave feedback in the comments section.

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I am BEAUTIFUL. I am PASSIONATE. I will LOVE.